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I’m not sure how, but somewhere between the Thing, NaNoWriMo, and getting the flu (which I still have) November seems to have disappeared. ~sighs~ So time for a quick update. πŸ˜€

1. The Thing (aka the Wedding) went well. Only 10 people about of the 60 or so that were invited showed up so I can’t say it was the biggest party of the year, but good enough. πŸ™‚ However it also introduced my Mate and I to the fly via his Sister. Oh well, families do share things right? πŸ˜›

2. NaNo came and NaNo went. I started out well and made it nearly to the end, but alas it was not to be. The flu struck hard the 3rd week of November and I never recovered in time to finish the contest. 😦 But I did meet a few new people online and hopefully in person soon so there is that. πŸ™‚ And as Ophelia said- considering the month…I’m good with what I got.

3. And the flu. It is now working on its 3rd/4th week with me and a week longer with my Mate. Gotta say that this is the longest I’ve taken to get over the flu since I stopped getting the shot.

 

So that has been the Month Past. The Month Now is going to be a bit slower…I hope. I plan on finishing up the Japanese part of my research and maybe start with China before New Years comes around. We’ll see though.

I still have to go up to the Social Security office, down to DMV, have my follow-up with myΒ surgeon, visit Dad before the holidays, and attend a few Christmas parties.

Maybe I can rest in January. πŸ˜›

Stress?….what stress?

So. This whole wedding thing is about to become an actual Thing now. Something I hadn’t planned on, not going the way I want it to, and it has Lyo yelling at me because I’m pissed off at my lack of perfection for a wedding flier because he forgot to tell people that it was potluck gathering after the 10 minute ceremony (that I wanted to be 2 minutes, but can’t because of his sister). Yeah…not the least bit problematic at all.

What I don’t get is why I am hurt over this. Why is it my fault for not taking care of the whole bloody mess when I know Lyo likes to put things off to the last minute? Why am I the one who is responsible for it? This whole thing isn’t even going close to MY idea of a wedding. This wasn’t even close to how I wanted to do things, but that is a bit late to change now isn’t it. Besides- I did suggest my idea and Lyo wasn’t fond of it so we had to compromise. He gets the ceremony to please his sister (grrr) and I get the Not A Reception Reception. Fair right?

I ask him, I tell him, I’ve been reminding him of this since this whole fucked up mess got going that I wanted one that was similar to a friend’s reception which was everyone bring something to eat (finger food, etc) and your own drinks. It isn’t so much a reception as an excuse to have a party. Easy idea. Nothing to it. Just tell the people we want to invite. Now…

He wants to put up a bloody flier or hand out invitations or some other thing. And who has to come up with something? Who gets to have people she doesn’t even like all that well at this Thing?

No…this isn’t a wedding anymore….it is a bloody, fucking Thing that I’m only going through because 1. I do love him. 2. If we make it through this….we can pretty much handle anything. 3. I’m not moving all my stuff again if anything happens to Lyo. I WILL stay in that house.

But trust me …..unless there is a REALLY good reason for getting married….avoid it. It isn’t worth the hurt feelings and starry eyed dreams being shattered to jump into getting married.

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