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Are you willing to question

Love is the difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.-Iris Murdoch

I’ve come to realize what my biggest problem with organized religion is. It is that one person’s opinion rules a lot of people. You aren’t really supposed to think for yourself you are just supposed to do what they tell you like a good little follower.

Now I’m not saying that this actually works in the real world. Seems everyone has an opinion about one thing or another that conflicts with their beliefs. And I’m all for that. Hell, I’ll help it along if I can. 🙂

But it is the idea that so many people would put where their souls will go into the hands of one person kind of creeps me out.

Why can’t you be gay?
Why can’t you have magic?
Why can’t you have more than one spouse?

Some would say that the people who believe what they are told to believe are sheep. That isn’t exactly true to me. Because if they were really sheep then they would never disagree with what their leader says. I think of them as less dominant. After all they still have the teeth they were born with.

I’m more of a cherry picker when it comes to religion. Nearly all religions have something good that I can get from them… and have in my wandering. 🙂 I’ve also had that term mean something not so nice, but since it is what I do- I can’t really complain. I’ve even had eclectic  pagans call me that before which is kind of funny considering where they are coming from.

But the way I look at it. We all do it. Christians, Pagans, Muslims, and everyone else I’m sure. We pick what we want from the religions we follow and run with it. The good or the bad.

I’ve met very few who will actually take all of it as it is. The good and the bad. And the few that I’ve met are kind of scary in their acceptance of everything they believe. It has gotten to the point that I don’t know which is scarier- the people who choose to put their souls into one man? Or the ones who truly believe?

I just hope that those who don’t believe that everyone should follow the same path get some more backbone soon.


Timing can be everything

Treat the other man’s faith gently; it is all he has to believe with. His mind was created for his own thoughts, not yours or mine.
-Henry S. Haskins

There are many people I respect that have religion of one kind or another. They range from the Christian right on through dead religions and even the religious beer drinker. The one thing that they share in common is that they do not try to force me into thinking their way. And not in the ‘oh you’ll go somewhere nasty in the here after’ kind of way. It is more of a ‘okay, this isn’t for you I’ll shut up now’ way.

But I’ve also run across people who continue to push. I’ve heard just about everything from ‘You’ll go to hell’ to ‘I feel so sad for you’. Mainly they try to convince me that by negative emotions that I’m in danger of something. But I will say last night takes the prize for the most…out right blatant use of emotional blackmail I’ve seen from anyone religious.

So a little back story before I go on.

Lyo had joined the LDS (or whatever group it is) quite a few years ago. He hasn’t been an active member for nearly the same amount of time, but these people continue to track him down every time he moves. No big deal really. Most of them are nice. One couple are friends of ours that just got back into the church big time. And a lot of them are young…very young.

And most of them take the option of walking away from me when I tell them that I don’t join groups (I generally leave out the snarky comments of bullshit and the hypocritical morals unless I’m pushed).

But last night I had a lovely encounter with two people who took the prize. Actually I shouldn’t really say anything about her, she didn’t do much talking, but he did.

It started out the same as always but with a slight twist since Lyo and I were married. Basically talking about joining the church and how wonderful it is. Blah, blah, blah. And I reply with a small smile my usual- “not a joiner. I’m good where I am”.

Then came the blackmail.

Lyo has given you this. Lyo has given you that. He wants you to join the church so that you can be with him forever. Because if you don’t then you will never see him in the afterlife.

Now at this point I would like to say that the conversation ended with both of them being thrown out of my house. 🙂

But that didn’t happen. 😦

Nor did I go into all the reasons I think their theory is bullshit.

The reason- Lyo is going through a hard time right now. A lot of personal and professional things have decided that this was the month that they all wanted to come to a head. He doesn’t need his wife erupting into a fountain of arguments and counter points, or physically throwing people out of our home right now.

So I was polite. Mad but polite. And our friends had just lost a bit of the respect I had for them.


Once things calm down and life starts to even out again the next encounter will be very…very different. And yes- there will be another time in the not so distant future when two more will knock on our door. I hope they get a warning from the last two because I don’t intend to let that kind of  blackmail talk in my house again.


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