Seek simplicity, and distrust it.
-Alfred North Whitehead
Sharing hobbies is kind of like sharing clothes when it comes to long term relationships. The fit is never quite the same for the other person.
Now granted I don’t share my hobbies with Lyo all that frequently. Movie Night being the exception. 🙂 And even that is a compromise of a kind considering I love horror and SyFy movies and he is more into the musicals, animated, and old science fiction movies.
Recently Lyo and I are sharing another hobby this time one of his. Target practice. 🙂 All I can say is thank the gods for Duck Hunter. With a .22 I’m decent for having only shot a pistol on two occasions… counting today. 😛
But you should see Lyo’s face what we’re out there and punching holes whatever target we bring. Happy just doesn’t seem to cover the expression on his face as we drive out there and back. It is almost like he was lonely before and now he’s found someone he can share knowledge with while having fun doing an activity.
Seriously, if you have someone you really really care about- friend, lover, or whatever- ask to be apart of an activity that you don’t normally do together. Like going to a museum, baseball game, book reading, film festival, gun shopping or whatever. Ask them questions. Point out things that interest you. Be interactive.
But above all. Watch your person when they aren’t looking at you. I’m betting there will be a smile there somewhere. They’ll be a little more animated when they answer questions or offer an opinion.
More importantly. If you go do an activity with them then they are supposed to return the favor and do something you want to do. 😀 Favor blackmail is an awesome tool when you know that they are going to HATE it.